If you find yourself in a "Reformed / Presbyterian" church and your pastor says that your covenant children need to be "evangelized," I've got news for you. Your pastor isn't really Reformed or Presbyterian. He is really a Baptist. He may not be dispensational. He may not be Arminian or immersionist. But he is a Baptist nevertheless.
Don't get me wrong, I love Baptists. I just don't appreciate Baptists masquerading as Presbyterians on this issue. Covenant children need covenant nurture and catechism, not evangelism. Covenant children need to hear the Gospel, but they don't hear it as someone outside of the promises and oracles of God. No. They hear it as part of the family. They hear it as those to whom God has said, "I will be your God and you will be My people." It isn't an "if-then" statement, it is a "is-and" statement.
Evangelism is for those who aren't family yet. They're invited to be a part of the family. We proclaim, persuade, and pray for them to become brothers and sisters. But we are aware that they have no share yet in the "covenants of promise." It is a whole different animal than covenant nurture.
And that is the rub. Consistent Baptists and inconsistent Presbyterians flatten the distinction between children of believers and people outside of the faith. They think they both need to be evangelized. What a cruel knot for covenant children to untangle. "Ok, Billy, let's pray together before bed." "Billy! You need to repent and believe or you will go to hell!" "Billy, let's sing, 'Jesus loves me.'" "Billy, you need to make a profession of faith before the church!" "Billy, great job memorizing your Bible verse this week!" "Billy, I hope you accept Jesus in your heart at church camp." "Billy, you can't have communion until you're old enough to understand what you're doing."
Let's help Billy and stop the schizophrenia. Let's start by recognizing Baptist theology when we encounter it.